Sons of Perdition Series
The man said, “The woman you PUT here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” (1)
Why would I close my heart to love after a bad experience if it turns out for the worse? Because I would have developed resentment towards God for reaping the consequences of my own wrongs and imperfections that collaborated to my failure in love. I would be as a hypocrite without accountability of my own mistakes that contributed to its ruin. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye?(2). I would close my heart, unbelieving resentful that God only has the worse in store for me to suffer, "so I will never again trust my love life to suffer again in a simulation to FAIL". I would always think "whoever God gives me is just for me to suffer and fail that there is no hope."
This is very common. I myself have bore witness of women living this outcome and even had these contemplations myself. Women who had a difficult first marriage and again they suffered in the second so that they had resentment towards God regarding their love life. Of course speaking from a Christian perspective but for those who don’t believe they usually lose faith in people; in men for example. Then they decide to live a life free of LOVE and men. But truly it was because they themselves did not do well (3). Did not do well in looking after their husband or endured a CHALLENGE that was meant to make and not BREAK them. Most likely lacking the wisdom, knowledge or the disposition and skill set to practice what was necessary to edify (4); a gift and strength that comes from God by His Spirit and guidance of His Word.
Why is there in the hand of a fool the purchase price of Wisdom, Since he has no HEART for it? (5)
This Closed Heart is none other than hypocrisy and a lack of accountability. Because what I sow that I will reap (6) Did I look after my husband well? Was I patient with him having faith in God? Did I believe in the Word of God to obey in practicing kindness and humility? Did I do my part? Was I faithful to God? Did I put God first so that He could protect me from the spiritual enemies that provoke us to sin? Well whatever we sow that we will reap. If we are perfect and acceptable before God would He not accept and honour in seeing the fruit of a blessed outcome and peace. So the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.” (3)
This is none other than guilt. Guilt of failure. Guilt of failure towards the family because of not doing well (3) and the sin that lies at our door is for us to give up completely in the Love Life and not hope and persevere to do better next time. This resentment is none other than the fruit of guilt.
Unaccountability
Hypocrisy
Unbelief
Like Adam back in the Garden of Eden, when he had sinned instead of being humble and acknowledging his sin he was angry at God and also blamed God (1) . He was resentful to God for his own failure. Because of the guilt that was the offspring of his sin. That blinded his understanding and he fell into a first stage of APOSTASY at that point….
When we fail it is vital that we get back up!
A living dog is better than a dead lion (7)
Because the curse of sin that lies at the door is guilt; to give up and die (8). When we look at Sarah and Abraham. Though they were not guilty but the shame of barrenness was enough to give up. The shame of not producing. The shame of no results. The shame of failure. Many failed attempts, no child, I can only imagine, they must have been very active all their marriage trying, trying and trying and not producing anything. Yet they remained there in the Promised land with all that shame and failure they did not leave the Promised land... the Word of God but persevered in Faith. They remained with all the shame and reproach waiting, persevering, growing, failing but never giving up.
This is how we must deal with failure, with guilt. We must not give up. Even if we fail a 1000 times at love or marriage or family we must not become resentful towards God and His perfect plans for us to do us good, to give us a hope and a future (9). This is none other than our captivity that we enter into for our disobedience and offences like the people of Isreal in Babylon (10), for the consequences of our sins and mistakes we are also accountable for.
But in each captivity God promises; For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (11) And with this understanding with each FAILURE, with each captivity we must arise and stand up again and keeping going; because God does not want us to give up. That is why He commanded Cain to RULE OVER IT!(3)When we obey this command and we get back up again… maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow but at the appointed time like Abraham and Sarah, once we have done that good and perfect will of God we too will see the Promise (12).
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